Vancouver Province

Thursday 11 May 2000

Sarah Papple:
Women can't be sexual predators? Hah!

Sarah Papple The Province

It's a short learning curve. The first time a boy fumbles with your bra strap, you learn to manipulate. You give sex, you get what you want.

Girls go through years of training at the hands of Cosmo to hone their sexual manipulation skills: Lick lips, wear red bras, rub nylons together, bend at the waist . . .

But no self-respecting woman would ever unleash two decades of skills on a teenage boy. Let alone her student. It's too easy, it's an abuse of authority, and it's downright predatory.

"Getting my students into bed? It would be a snap," said my good friend Missi Waite, who teaches high-school science. "But it would be about control, and that's it. It would be a power trip.

"They would do anything for me if I had sex with them. And they'd think they were getting lucky, because there is that teacher-student boyhood fantasy thing."

Bedding a student would be as easy as throwing back the duvet. If he played hard to get, you might have to wink. That's biology.

Missi knows the boys talk about her. She's the school "hottie." She's a grownup, so she ignores it.

Also, she added, it's against the law. All teachers are required to take a course that outlines exactly why they can't have sex with their students, why they should at least wait until summer holidays.

"But Missi," I said. "These teachers say they're in love."

We snickered at this thought.

These women aren't in it for love, or even good conversation. It's a power thing. It's predatory. They give sex, they get a lap dog who looks like a man, but has the pliable mind of a boy.

But tell that to the experts.

"A sexual predator who is a woman?" laughed a rape-crisis worker yesterday. "Impossible. That's just impossible."

Come on, she said. It's men that hunt women for sex. Surely it's the testosterone that makes them do it.

A few more calls like that, and I headed to the academics. I called the local universities and hoped for a more helpful opinion.

Bounced through the departments of education and psychology, asking for anyone who could shed some light on female sexual predators.

They gave me Boris Gorzalka.

He laughed at my question, but for a different reason.

"I study sexual behaviour in the rat," said the psychology professor.

"They have predators, but not sexual ones."

"Good luck finding someone who studies women as sexual predators. It's really an untouched field of research, but I doubt for long."

I tried to persuade Dr. Gorzalka to change his focus from rats to female sexual predators.

It's not much of a jump.

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